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Overcoming the Fear of Being Touched - Steps to Conquer Your Touch Aversion

The fear of being touched, also known as haphephobia or aphenphosmphobia, can be an isolating and uncomfortable experience. Touch aversion is a feeling of intense discomfort or fear when someone attempts to touch you. It can be physical, such as when someone attempts to hug you, or it can be psychological, such as when someone attempts to shake hands with you.

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What’s the difference between touch and sex?

We live in a world where there are many taboos around touch, but where we are also bombarded by sexualised imagery and narratives.

As a result, sexual interactions are one of the few opportunities most people get to experience full body touch; so it’s no wonder that many of us have come to believe that touch and sex are inextricably linked.

But they don’t have to be.

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5 Unusual Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day with Your Partner: Ideas to Add a Little Spice!

Valentine's Day is a special time to celebrate love and appreciation for your partner. But if you're looking for something unique and memorable, there are plenty of unusual ways to make the day special. From exploring an unknown city together to creating a personalized gift, these ideas will help you add a little spice to your Valentine's Day celebration.

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Would you pay to be cuddled?

With the rise of technology and the resulting isolation many of us feel, in addition to increased competition for resources, it’s not surprising that more and more people are turning to paid services like cuddling. These services allow you to pay someone else to provide physical affection or a massage on a one-time-or-regularly basis. While these services may be useful for those who struggle with social anxiety, or people who just need an extra affectionate hand, are they worth paying for? And should you trust them with your money?

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4 Ways to Follow Through With Your New Year's Resolutions

New Year’s resolutions are a time-honored tradition, but that doesn’t mean they always work. Many people set themselves up to fail by resolving to do something they cannot keep up on their own, such as give up alcohol for the next 365 days. Yet, there are ways to follow through with resolutions and achieve them.

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Platonic Cuddling: What It Is, and How to Enjoy It Without Crossing the Line

Platonic cuddling is a unique way to connect with someone without having to engage in any kind of physical or romantic contact. It's a safe way to express closeness and comfort, and can provide a much-needed sense of security and belonging. Platonic cuddling is becoming increasingly popular with friends, family members, and even strangers, but it can be confusing for those who don't know what it is or how to do it properly.

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A Beginner's Guide to Finding The Perfect Cuddle Buddy

Whether you’re looking for a cuddle buddy to share a warm hug with, to share a bed with for some extra body heat, or to just have a friendly face to talk to, finding a safe and secure cuddle buddy in your area can be a challenging task. Searching for someone to cuddle with can be a daunting process and it’s important to ensure that your cuddle buddy will be a safe and secure choice for you.

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Practical Self-Care Tips to Help You Recharge During the Holidays

The holidays bring so much joy, but they can also be a stressful and overwhelming time. With celebrations, parties, shopping, travel, and family obligations, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and overworked. To ensure your wellbeing during the holidays, it’s important to practice self-care. Self-care is all about taking the time to prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health.

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The Basics of Cuddling

Cuddling is a simple, low-pressure way to show someone you care about them. It’s wholesome and sweet, with just the right amount of intimacy without the risk of pressure that comes with other physical activities. Cuddlers are lucky: These days, it feels like more people are willing to give cuddling a shot. But if you’re brand new to the idea, it can be tricky to know how to proceed.

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Is Sex a Good Substitute for Touch?

Today’s fast-paced world offers little time for intimacy or physical contact. The Internet, mobile apps, video games and other artificial means of communication have made things easier for many people. However, there are serious downsides to these inventions. The lack of physical contact leaves many people feeling isolated and disconnected from others.

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How Men Need (And Receive) Affection Differently From Women

Men and women are different in practically every way. So, it’s not surprising that we also experience love and affection differently. While many of the ways that men and women express love may seem like subtle differences, they can add up to a lot more than you might think when you take all of them together.

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Why Touch is Essential in Intimate Relationships

Intimate relationships are the space in which you get to know someone on a deeper level. It’s also the place where you share your vulnerabilities and fears with another person. If you're in an intimate relationship, touching is a key factor in keeping things strong and healthy between you and your partner. Touching is not only about sex but about showing affection in many different ways.

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The Amazing Science of Human Touch: What Your Hands Can Say

Human beings are social creatures. We crave contact and interaction with other people. Even as technology continues to grow and flourish, we still seek out physical affection from one another. We may not even realize it, but our hands play a huge role in the way that we communicate with others. The way that your hand touches someone can say more about you than you might think.

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Why We Need Oxytocin: The Science of Connection

One of the most important discoveries in science during the last decade is that of the hormone oxytocin. Discovered nearly 200 years ago, it wasn’t until recently that we understood its central role in our physiology and behavior. That’s because oxytocin is a hormone that plays a significant role in social behavior. It’s also referred to as the love hormone, cuddle hormone or trust hormone — but it has much more to offer than being simply a feel-good chemical.

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Why Our Sense of Touch is Fascinating

Humans are the most sensitive creatures on earth. More specifically, we have advanced tactile abilities that allow us to feel almost anything we want. While other species have some degree of sensitivity to touch, no one can compete with humans when it comes to this sense. Everything from goosebumps to shivers, itching and tickling are all a result of our ability to perceive stimuli on a very fine-tuned level.

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What's Your Attachment Style: Why It Matters and How To Change

Do you feel comfortable with people, or do you find it hard to trust others and risk being vulnerable? Do you tend to avoid relationships, or fear they will end someday? Do you tend to pick partners who are unfaithful, unreliable, or unkind - because that’s what makes you feel secure? An attachment style is how we respond when another person behaves in a way that suggests they might not be around forever; whether they are going away on holiday tomorrow or might one day leave us for good.

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How Gay Men Show Affection Differently Than Straight Couples

Same-sex couples deal with many of the same relationship challenges as straight couples. But they also have to navigate unique cultural mores when it comes to expressing their love and affection. For example, while some might think that gay men wouldn’t be big on kissing and cuddling, studies show that the majority of gay men kiss as often as their heterosexual peers and value physical intimacy just as much.

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There's a Reason Touch Deprivation is Making You So Tired

It is no exaggeration to say that touch deprivation has become one of the most common sources of stress among people today. People are so busy with their fast-paced lives that they barely have time even to hug or hold hands with another human being. In fact, researches have found that millennials are less likely to have friends and partners compared to any other previous generation.

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The Symptoms of Touch Deprivation: From Creativity to Socializing

Touch is so much more than just a sense; it’s an essential part of who we are as people—not just as human beings, but also as social creatures. Unfortunately, our touch-deprived society has led to increasing isolation among many individuals, especially older adults and young adults who have begun to live with roommates instead of spouses or partners.

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